wrny: first trimester realities


Before conceiving, I thought I’d be one of those earth-mother types who would instantly start radiating from the inside out. I’m sure you’ve heard about that pregnancy glow, right?? From what the media (and even more-so social media) depicts about pregnant women, I was under the impression (perhaps delusional?) that this would be me from the get-go. I had of course heard about the early cliche pregnancy symptoms like morning sickness, etc., however the greater emphasis is always put on the glorified parts. At least for a typical person scrolling through their instagram feed (as I was pre-pregnancy). There isn’t much transparency into the ‘ugly’ side unless you seek out the information, so why would I expect anything different than what I saw in the highlights? My perspective included women holding gorgeous round bellies while giving their two-year old a smooch, celebrities in head-to-toe chic maternity ensembles (Blake Lively = flawless), beautiful baby showers, seamlessly crafted nurseries, and I’m not even going to get into all of the photos of pregnant yogis turned upside down and sideways in front of a beautiful ocean landscape with the sun perfectly setting on their bump. Naturally, I imagined my experience to look like a version of this, the world immediately opening up to send me love and light and instantly I’d feel connected to myself both spiritually and physically, miraculously becoming super woman, obviously! Yeah right! Maybe for some that actually happens. But for most women, the reality of the first trimester looks nothing like this at all. I mean not even a slight resemblance. While I am supremely grateful, excited and humbled by becoming a mama, it was very hard to embrace any of this in my first trimester.

I wish I had a write-up to read in the beginning when I felt like the only person in the world who was struggling, because it would have come in handy knowing that most women go through a similar experience. It was a very vulnerable (and sometimes lonely) time, especially during the first 12 weeks when living in the pregnancy closet. I’m the type of person who wears heart on sleeve, and likes to talk about EVERYTHING (this blog – case in point). Now that I’ve gotten through my first trimester, I wanted to put something together for all of you who are about to embark on the journey – a realistic lens to keep expectations in check, and a few words of wisdom so you know that I understand. I promise you are not alone! In a contributing piece for Well Rounded NY, I present you with 10 of the less glorified parts of pregnancy that you knew about, but never really expected to happen to you! Along with some advice on how to cope with it all!

Head over to Well Rounded NY to check out the piece…

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