When Brandi Sellerz, founder of Not So Private Parts reached out and asked if I’d be open to an interview, I didn’t have to think twice before saying, ‘Yes!’. Not So Private Parts, ‘a lifestyle blog centered around removing the shame and stigma surrounding women’s issues’, is a platform that welcomes openness and being raw. After suffering a miscarriage herself, Brandi felt that there were limited resources for support and recognized that some of the greatest challenges we face as women were being politely swept under the rug. She wanted to start a bigger conversation, and create a community that welcomed this honesty. Brandi’s hope for Not So Private Parts is that women find a safe place to share experiences in their journey through this beautiful space called womanhood. I’ve been interviewed a number of times since launching Your Soul Style but in the true nature of Not so Private Parts I went deep. When asked if I’ve always posessed a positive body image, here’s what I had to say…
It’s still a journey. I’ve come to appreciate the power of my body, especially since pregnancy and giving birth, but still have moments where I need to remind myself about embracing what’s been given to me. Having a positive self-image is critical since the amount of information we have access to and consume can trip us up. But it must start at the core and foundation. How we see ourselves is directly related to how our parents see themselves so the building blocks begin the minute we enter the world. We are products of the people that raise us and children look to their parents first and foremost for validation in who they are. So if your parent(s) has a compromised self-esteem, a child will see that in themselves. I am so super mindful with Vida, especially since she’s a girl and societal pressures run deep. Her foundation needs to be rock solid so when the branches of life start swinging at her, she has the tools to hold steady. Think of it like this: my hair is naturally curly but for a time I was blowing it straight. I decided to stop because although it seems harmless, if Vida has curly hair and Mama doesn’t like her own hair curly, how will she internalize that? She may start to have a negative association with her naturalness. It’s important for me to embrace myself as I am so that Vida will learn to do the same. Through her lens, she is an extension of me so my demonstration of self-love, empowerment and self-esteem is fundamental to secure her own development.
If you’d like to check out the full interview, head over to Brandi’s beautiful site, where I also offer postpartum style tips, how I take time to breathe in my own oxygen, and my must-have items if I was trapped on a deserted island.
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Vida was born in July which made it easy to get her in and out of the Solly wrap or Ergo. She’s a little fuss bunny when layering up which I’m convinced is because she’s a summer baby and those first few months were a cake walk when it came to getting dressed. Pop on a sleeveless onesie, and we were good to go. That said, we still like to be out and about exploring together, and to make that possible on cold NYC days we wear the B & Me Booker coat which is one of the best mamahood inventions ever, keeping Vida cozy as we galavant around our favorite city.
Founder Sarah Clark, created the Booker Coat so that mamas, papas or whomever can wear their baby and simultaneously keep them covered and warm. It can be worn as is, or layered underneath another coat (like I wear here). I love giving Vida the opportunity to engage with her surroundings and sometimes the stroller can be limiting. Having her at eye level creates a more engaging experience for both of us. Plus, she’s just the cutest accessory around.
Sarah did a little Q&A with me which if you’d like, can check out over on her instagram. Super honored for the feature. And for all you new mamas out there, take a peak at the B & Me site, and don’t miss out on scooping up a coat for you and your little.
The spring-like weather teaser has propelled me down the internet rabbit hole, in search of warm-weather items. That said, Shopbop is having a mega sale which goes through Friday, March 5th. Definitely a good opportunity to stock up on some goodies for the season ahead, or on pieces you missed out on from fall/winter. On my list I’ve got some “of-the-moment” off the shoulder styles from MLM LABEL, Flynn Skye and PAMPELONE and these tops from Mara Hoffman, TIBI and MISA. For footwear, I had my eyes on this Dolce Vita lace up sandal, this block heel from Stuart Weitzman and an easy slide from Diane Von Furstenberg. Also on my wishlist are a few pairs of wide leg pants like these from from Alice + Olivia, Cupcakes and Cashmere and St. Roche. Lastly, these jumpsuits from Etienne Marcel, Bobi and Rag & Bone. Head over to Shopbop, and be sure to use the BIGEVENT16 code at checkout.
One of my favorite go-to items has and always will be a blazer. As my body (and lifestyle) shifts – weight gain, PMS, pregnancy, postpartum life, a blazer always works. It adds interest to almost all head-to-toe styling, can be dressed up or down, provides a stylish second layer for warmth and transitions with the ebb and flow of a changing shape. Breaking the bank on everything in your wardrobe is unnecessary, but this closet staple is worth the investment because of wearability. Like a good handbag, a blazer gets good mileage and will stand the test of time especially when well made. I’m always in the market for a new one for both myself and clients so a few recent standouts…
SHOP IT: Malene Birger // Stella McCartney // Theory // Tibi // J.Crew // Equipment