i love ny

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I’m a little late to the party when it comes to this Phillip Lim, “I Love Nueva York” tee since it was all over the street during Fall NYFW.   However in lieu of the upcoming DOMA and Prop 8 ruling by the Supreme Court this week  – I’m feeling extra thankful and lucky to be living in a state where my marriage is already recognized.  I am so proud to be a New Yorker and am hoping that the rights that I’ve come to know are extended to all and then some.

Sending tons of love, luck and support to all standing on the front line in Washington!

xx #yoursoulstyle

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  1. 3.1 Phillip Lim I heart nueva york tank, $115, net-a-porter.com
  2. Zara crossover trousers, $59, zara.com
  3. Persol suprema roadster sunglasses, $270, barneys.com
  4. Clare Vivier messenger bag, $363, shopbop.com
  5. Topshop leather biker jacket, $330, topshop.com
  6. Marni bracelet, $135, yoox.com
  7. J.Crew Collection everly calf hair wedges, $358, jcrew.com

read: fashion and feminism

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The fuel behind ‘your soul style’ is to send the message that you can achieve empowerment through style .  I have been on a relentless journey of self discovery and part of my learning (and growth) is that that self expression and empowerment are one in the same.  I want to continuously share this perspective with you so that if you haven’t fully embraced ‘your soul style’ yet – let me help you get there.  It is so important that women keep pushing forward because although we have made extensive progress – it ain’t over.  As part of this project I will be periodically sharing articles that are aligned with this mission.  This write-up by Leah Bourne at forbes discusses the double edge sword women have had to deal with while navigating through ‘gender politics’.  Click here for full article.   – xx #yoursoulstyle

spring it on

Not sure about you but I cannot wait for spring.  Being a New Yorker I’ve learned to deal with the winter months – but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t wish it was warm all year round.  Winter fashion is dynamic because of the layers and coziness but by March I’ve had it.  Are you as over it as I am?  Here are a few looks pulled from the spring 2013 shows to inspire and get you ready – each perfect for weekend, date night or work.  I’ve combed through the interweb to find affordable replicas and you may even have a few of these pieces hanging in your closet already!

Enjoy! xx

Look: Weekend

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Band of Outsiders Spring 2013 *photo via style.com

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  1. Mango crochet dress, $44.99, mango.com
  2. Topshop unlined parka, $120, topshop.com
  3. Gap two tone canvas tote, $49.95, gap.com
  4. Topshop thread wrap bracelet pack, $35, topshop.com
  5. Rachel Roy strappy platform sandals, $295, bloomingdales.com
 

Look: Date Night 

_RAC0404.450x675Rachel Zoe Spring 2013 *photo via style.com

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  1. Madewell linen racerback tank, $39.50, madewell.com
  2. Topshop split back maxi skirt, $40, topshop.com
  3. Eugenia Kim turben headband, $63, lyst.com
  4. Forever 21 multi chain tassel necklace, $6.80, forever21.com
  5. Marc by Marc Jacobs double wrap necklace, $128, shopbop.com
  6. Michael Kors white chronograph watch, $225, michaelkors.com
  7. Alexander Wang rocco duffle bag, $895, shopbop.com
  8. Cole Haan arden wedge, $198, colehaan.com
 

Look: Work 

JCREW030.450x675J.Crew Collection Spring 2013 *photo via style.com

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  1. J.Crew side-seam sailor top, $68, jcrew.com
  2. 3.1 Phillip Lim floral trousers, $425, shopbop.com
  3. Michael Kors pave bracelet, $65, shopbop.com
  4. Marc by Marc Jacobs tiny crystal bracelet, $52, shopbop.com
  5. Holst + Lee jewel tone bracelet, $155, shopbop.com
  6. J.Crew nolita denim jacket, $128, net-a-porter.com
  7. Zara vamp shoe, $49, zara.com

the philosophy

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Hello friends!  I want to thank you for your support and encouragement while developing this site.  It means the world to have you by my side and I look forward to the continued building of our community.  I hope you have enjoyed this journey so far and I encourage you to stay on board to be part of the ride.  Like all things, ‘soul style’ will continue to evolve so I thank you in advance for your patience.  One recent change is the site name – you can now find me at yoursoulstyle.com.

Also stay tuned for ‘project soul style‘ which will launch in the coming weeks.  You can find information on the ‘project soul style’ tab on the home page.   Keep checking back and stay tuned!

Now as promised, the ‘soul style’ philosophy.

The ‘soul style’ movement is about self-expression through the vehicle of style.  From the beginning of time dress has symbolized culture, social grouping, profession, power, socioeconomic status, etc.  Indian women pierce their nose signifying beauty and marriage and the sari (both print and color) represents different meanings and implications.  Religious Jewish women cover their heads with a sheitel for modesty and in Japan the kimono is still prevalent despite westernization.  One could argue that these ladies have it easy – the homogeneous nature of their culture facilitating predetermined style choices.  Traditions prevail and choices are limited.  But what happens when you’re not part of a culture that lays it all out for you?  When you’re thrown into the fashion abyss and can choose anything with no rules or regulations – no boundaries and no parameters around how to define yourself?  How do you create your ‘soul style’?

The most important thing to remember when developing your sense of style is that you are only at your best when you are truly being yourself.  Looking at others and expecting to feel satisfied while copying them will eventually prove to be unsuccessful (*disclaimer – to copy and be inspired by are not the same thing).  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve worn something after seeing it on someone else (or in a magazine) and wound up feeling completely out-of-place all day.  Has this ever happened to you?  You just feel off?  I’ve realized that not everything is going to connect even if it looks fabulous on the gal standing to my right.  It needs to be and feel like me!  ‘Soul style’ is about finding your own rhythm and determining what works best for you and only you.  Like the women of India and Japan you can also engage in traditions, but the best part about yours are that you can be the creator of them.

Join me on this journey and I will give you the tools to help you get there.

Personal style silently defines us which is why at soul style my goal is to make sure that you are shining through

xx – Jenny

**I dedicate this movement to my wife who creates the space to let me be who I am every day**

hair today, gone tomorrow…

There was never a time in my life that I wasn’t hair conscious – or rather I should say self-conscious about my hair. From as far back as kindergarten I cried about how my side pony was too frizzy and asked questions like, “why can’t my hair be smooth and straight like all the other little girls?” My Mom used to brush and pull and smooth, but no matter what we did – my hair felt like a cotton ball protruding from my head.

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ponytailRocking the Pony: sometime in the early 80’s

This continued throughout elementary, middle, high school and college. It was only until a few years ago (I’m 33) where I began to “sort of” embrace the curls and own them. I had no more fight in me so I threw in the towel and started to work with what I had. I can’t deny that even though I’ve resolved some of my frustrations with my mane, I still get bent out of shape about it. My wife calls it “hairanoia” (hair + paranoia = hairanoia). She thinks that I see my hair way different from the reality of it. Sort of like when you look in a fun house mirror and your perception is completely distorted. I know I’m not alone here, right??

For the past few years since keratin hit the market, things have increasingly gotten better. I get the treatment 1-2x a year. I wouldn’t say that I’m 100% satisfied though (and the fact that I have grey hair too does not help matters – shhh). My hair is smoother and more manageable, but as each month goes by – I know it’s slowly creeping back towards its original texture (keratin girls – you know what I mean!). And I am not thrilled about putting the chemicals in, but hey – the things we do for beauty. I continue to search for the perfect cocktail of smoothing serum, gel, comb, diffuser, shampoo, conditioner, and any other hair treatment that will tame the mane. Every time I purchase a new product it’s another glimmer of hope towards transforming the locks. I try out my new combination and fingers crossed I’ll look like Penelope Cruz.

This brings me to the present day. Due to my hairanoia I’ve been resistant to getting a “real” cut – keeping it long and simple to maintain some level of ease. I detest haircuts. Every time I go into the salon I sound like Woody Allen – anxious, overly descriptive, nervous, uneasy and annoying to the stylist! I’m pretty sure every one I’ve ever seen thinks I need to be medicated. Haircuts to me are up there with sky diving, bungee jumping and swimming with the sharks. I’ve dreamed of cutting it shorter, but fear that it will be even more difficult than it already is. I know, I know – hair grows back so what am I sweating? And the truth is I don’t know! Like all irrational fears, this one is on my list.

You’ll be happy to know that yesterday I took the plunge, threw caution to the wind and went through with it. I was literally debating it up until the time that I sat in Johnny’s (Bumble and Bumble) chair, but after the first chop there was no turning back. I watched him carefully craft my do and tried my hardest not to freak him (and myself out) along the way. Towards completion I was still on edge about the whole thing and (even though going reverse wasn’t an option) having a conversation with myself whether this was the right move or not. After Johnny was done he shook it out and turned me towards the mirror. I took a deep breath, I put my hands to it, touched and played for a minute and decided that I LOVE IT! It’s a great change, feels fresh, exciting and I think I’m a bit bolder having gone through with it. If in a month or so I hate it….luckily it’s hair and will grow back!

Yesterday morning I asked my wife as we looked in the mirror together, “What if I don’t look sexy without long hair?” and she said this: “Your hair is not what makes you sexy. You are what makes you sexy”. I’ll continue to remind myself of this when I get hairanoid!

Are you thinking about making any changes soon? I’m always inspired by you so please share your stories!

inspirationInspiration: Sarah Paulson

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Screen Shot 2013-01-19 at 9.41.05 AMMy tool kit: Ouidad Climate Control gel, Bumble and Bumble Defrizz, Luxor diffuser, T3 Hair Dryer, Keratin Color Minded Shampoo/Conditioner, Hair Pick Comb