Keeping it real with the beautiful women behind Birdsong. Thank you for featuring me as your “Mama of the Month”. I’m humbled and grateful to stand alongside you both.
An excerpt from my interview….
“I had ideas about motherhood before becoming a mama, but the process was way more intense then I could have imagined. And not in a negative, “I can’t handle this” way (even though it’s all very overwhelming), but just in a deeply emotional and cathartic one. I now live by the motto “you can never know until you know” because realistic entry was incomparable to anything else. It feels cliche to say, but when Vida was born, so was I. Well, a newer version of myself. In the second between physical oneness and separation, it was go-time to embrace my highest self. All former life lessons were ripe and ready to be put into practice, in a real, practical and mindful way. It wasn’t about me anymore. It was about her. That all said, my flow fortunately felt organic and I’m grateful for that. It’s complicated and there’s a lot of unknowns to navigate (hi! mastitis, raging emotions, debilitating exhaustion and the inability to sit for 3 weeks!), but I made a conscious decision to follow my gut, tuning out the outside noise of cultural pressure and listened to my baby. This helped me to really let go, TRUST and follow my own instincts. I advocate for the philosophy that as humans we are all so completely different and embracing that uniqueness begins the minute we arrive earthside. So when Vida was born, I instantly put down the parenting guides, pulled back on asking others for advice and made sure to meet my child where she was. I continue to practice this parenting style in everything I do.”
If you’d like to read more from my interview which includes my recent mama heart-burst moment and a head-to-toe look I styled for a mama on-the-go, head over to the Birdsong blog here.
During my pregnancy I met Yoko Shimada – founder of Mitera, a motherhood centric brand for pre/postnatal life, specifically during breastfeeding. I joined Yoko, and the Mitera team as their on-site stylist for the Biggest Baby Shower event here in NYC, and at at 37 weeks featured the Grace dress in a ‘Style The Bump‘ post which to date is still one of my favorites of that series. That said, once Vida arrived I was excited to get back into the dress, utilizing the features and benefits of the hidden zipper for breastfeeding. I told Yoko in a current interview with the brand that when I wear the dress, ‘I feel like a breastfeeding Greek goddess in it’. The rest of the Q&A digs a bit deeper where I chat about my pregnancy, motherhood and breastfeeding journey, what parenting feels like from the perspective of a same-sex couple and my wish for Vida as she grows up. Click over to Mitera’s blog to read the full feature, and be sure to hit the shop tab on their site to peruse the beautiful collection.
photos via lori berkowitz
When Brandi Sellerz, founder of Not So Private Parts reached out and asked if I’d be open to an interview, I didn’t have to think twice before saying, ‘Yes!’. Not So Private Parts, ‘a lifestyle blog centered around removing the shame and stigma surrounding women’s issues’, is a platform that welcomes openness and being raw. After suffering a miscarriage herself, Brandi felt that there were limited resources for support and recognized that some of the greatest challenges we face as women were being politely swept under the rug. She wanted to start a bigger conversation, and create a community that welcomed this honesty. Brandi’s hope for Not So Private Parts is that women find a safe place to share experiences in their journey through this beautiful space called womanhood. I’ve been interviewed a number of times since launching Your Soul Style but in the true nature of Not so Private Parts I went deep. When asked if I’ve always posessed a positive body image, here’s what I had to say…
It’s still a journey. I’ve come to appreciate the power of my body, especially since pregnancy and giving birth, but still have moments where I need to remind myself about embracing what’s been given to me. Having a positive self-image is critical since the amount of information we have access to and consume can trip us up. But it must start at the core and foundation. How we see ourselves is directly related to how our parents see themselves so the building blocks begin the minute we enter the world. We are products of the people that raise us and children look to their parents first and foremost for validation in who they are. So if your parent(s) has a compromised self-esteem, a child will see that in themselves. I am so super mindful with Vida, especially since she’s a girl and societal pressures run deep. Her foundation needs to be rock solid so when the branches of life start swinging at her, she has the tools to hold steady. Think of it like this: my hair is naturally curly but for a time I was blowing it straight. I decided to stop because although it seems harmless, if Vida has curly hair and Mama doesn’t like her own hair curly, how will she internalize that? She may start to have a negative association with her naturalness. It’s important for me to embrace myself as I am so that Vida will learn to do the same. Through her lens, she is an extension of me so my demonstration of self-love, empowerment and self-esteem is fundamental to secure her own development.
If you’d like to check out the full interview, head over to Brandi’s beautiful site, where I also offer postpartum style tips, how I take time to breathe in my own oxygen, and my must-have items if I was trapped on a deserted island.
Click here to read the full interview…