interview: mitera

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During my pregnancy I met Yoko Shimada – founder of Mitera, a motherhood centric brand for pre/postnatal life, specifically during breastfeeding. I joined Yoko, and the Mitera team as their on-site stylist for the Biggest Baby Shower event here in NYC, and at at 37 weeks featured the Grace dress in a ‘Style The Bump‘ post which to date is still one of my favorites of that series. That said, once Vida arrived I was excited to get back into the dress, utilizing the features and benefits of the hidden zipper for breastfeeding. I told Yoko in a current interview with the brand that when I wear the dress, ‘I feel like a breastfeeding Greek goddess in it’. The rest of the Q&A digs a bit deeper where I chat about my pregnancy, motherhood and breastfeeding journey, what parenting feels like from the perspective of a same-sex couple and my wish for Vida as she grows up. Click over to Mitera’s blog to read the full feature, and be sure to hit the shop tab on their site to peruse the beautiful collection.

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photos via lori berkowitz

mamahood essentials: booker coat

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Vida was born in July which made it easy to get her in and out of the Solly wrap or Ergo. She’s a little fuss bunny when layering up which I’m convinced is because she’s a summer baby and those first few months were a cake walk when it came to getting dressed. Pop on a sleeveless onesie, and we were good to go. That said, we still like to be out and about exploring together, and to make that possible on cold NYC days we wear the B & Me Booker coat which is one of the best mamahood inventions ever, keeping Vida cozy as we galavant around our favorite city.

Founder Sarah Clark, created the Booker Coat so that mamas, papas or whomever can wear their baby and simultaneously keep them covered and warm. It can be worn as is, or layered underneath another coat (like I wear here). I love giving Vida the opportunity to engage with her surroundings and sometimes the stroller can be limiting. Having her at eye level creates a more engaging experience for both of us. Plus, she’s just the cutest accessory around.

Sarah did a little Q&A with me which if you’d like, can check out over on her instagram. Super honored for the feature. And for all you new mamas out there, take a peak at the B & Me site, and don’t miss out on scooping up a coat for you and your little.

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work-life balance

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Vida is 6 months old and as cliche as it sounds (and I know it does), it’s all moving too fast. While I adore watching her reach milestones like eating solids, roll over, ‘chatting’ up a storm and getting ready to crawl, part of me feels heavy. Her curiosity about the world pulls at my heart strings because that means more independence, and further detaching – which is a good thing, I know! It’s what we ultimately want for her – to thrive and become autonomous. But the art of holding on and letting go is a constant challenge. My baby will always be my baby, but she won’t always BE a baby. That said, knowing and accepting this reality has helped me cope with the transition into focusing more on myself again, “working mom” and all.

I’m never not grateful to design my days and be my own boss, but there are moments of struggle while establishing this new normal. I don’t have the demand of a corporate job, but the responsibility to create structure is mine so it leads to working whenever there’s time – nights and weekends, sending e-mails while playing with V or following up with people late in bed when I should be going to sleep! When I have a free second, my default is to work, and because I can from wherever/whenever, I monopolize these moments to accomplish a new task. But how much can I take on without compromising time for myself, family, and all else outside of Your Soul Style? What’s too much? What’s too little? When is it time to shutdown the computer (and the worst culprit of all – iphone!) and say enough? It’s a delicate balance, and one I have yet to master. Building and sustaining a business is hard, but having Vida requires the negotiation of time even more-so. Not everything gets done in the speed I’m used to, and I’m learning how to surrender and accept that. I recently read a few write-ups from women in similar positions about managing their first years as entreprenurial moms and their relatable stories shed light on how balance looks different for each of us. Some of us have part (or full) time nanny’s, others do day-care, some lean on friends and relatives for support, but regardless of how you take care of your baby, we are all doing our best to create the most ideal situation for us and our family. The dynamics are each unique.

To balance our own passions, with motherhood, career, obligations, time with family, friends and ourselves is not easy and I’m learning (or trying) to detach from the guilt and embrace the idea that there is no perfect version. Vida deserves my full attention and when I’m with her I focus on staying present, but I’d be lying if I said there weren’t distractions. Life is distracting! While there are rare days when I feel like superwoman accomplishing it all (laundry done, phone calls made, e-mails sent, baby nursed & asleep, dinner on table), I mostly close my eyes at night freaking about a running to-do list that grows each day. I wonder….when does it all normalize? Does it ever normalize? Or is this just the ‘new’ normal that I need to acclimate to? Does it get easier? Will I ever stop feeling overwhelmed? When will I stop feeling guilty about time spent away? I know I’m not alone when I ask myself these questions.

As Vida gets older I hold on tight to whatever sense of normalcy I can grasp, but like the aftermath of any life-changing event, my practice requires embracing patience while allowing the appropriate time for things to settle in. Being gentle on myself is key, and understanding that these days are short-lived helps me keep it in perspective. This time is precious, and I want to be here. Really here. I never want to look back and wish I did things differently. Vida is growing at lightening speed, and I am savoring each and every moment the best way I know how. By remaining flexible, open and balanced, even if that balance is constantly shifting. Life will never go back to what it was before Vida arrived, but our new normal refines as we reach individual milestones, growing parallel along side one another. With each new experience, we both stretch and expand. Through the discomfort of change, we find our place. One of my favorite recent quotes by Anais Nin explains it best, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” And how much more beautiful is that flower when it’s finally in bloom….

photo via lori berkowitz

mom uniform

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No matter what stage of life you’re in, we all have our go-to ensembles that make up our personal style. For some, it’s jeans and a t-shirt, others dresses and tights or it could be a signature piece like a leather moto jacket. A daily ‘look’ is part of us, and communicates our individuality. That said, lately I got to thinking about my current ‘look’ because it is always slightly shifting dependent upon life circumstances. And since right now I’m in new-mom mode, it’s a “need to be easy – but still want to feel fashionable – yet must be functional” kind of phase.

Overalls (as seen in my instagram feed) continue to live-on as my go-to uniform because they are super comfortable, stylish, durable, can be dressed up (or down), nursing friendly, are waistline forgiving, and a complete outfit in one which is a no-brainer. I’ve stocked my closet with a few options in black, blue and white denim because they are on constant rotation. Other items that are working in my current new-mom role are a hat (because time spent on hair has been generously reduced since having Vida), comfortable shoes, a chic backpack to throw in tons of yours and baby crap, a scarf to cover yourself when nursing and a cozy sweater. Like I tell my pre/postnatal clients, don’t throw in your (style) towel and give-up because life has changed. If anything, mama-hood is a time to feel your most beautiful because all those good vibes are being absorbed by another life. I recognize the need for ease during this transition, but make sure your uniform empowers you! You just created a human – you basically have superpowers and can do anything. If you are struggling to find your wings, reach out and connect with me at jenny@yoursoulstyle.com so I can help you find them.

SHOP MY UNIFORM: overalls (or here and here) // moto jacket // cashmere sweater // backpack // scarf // hat  // booties

surf’s up

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I don’t know about you mamas, but since having Vida, it can be a challenge finding time to cook a decent meal. While Dina has remained on the ball, for me it hasn’t been as easy. My multitasking skills continue to improve, but calling in a company like KitchenSurfing which gave us the night off was basically a dream come true.

Last week, a personal chef  (Josh) showed up at our apartment, food and cooking gear in hand. All we had to do was point him in the right direction, and he took over from there. Like dining at the chefs table, it was very cool to see what could be accomplished in our small NYC kitchen. It kind of felt like we were on an episode of Top Chef. Within 30 minutes we were not only eating a most delicious healthy meal, but the clean-up was done too. I can’t say enough about how epic it was to be able to focus on Vida during those valuable after-work hours, all the while getting to eat a home cooked meal. As new parents, we reserved the 6:00pm slot, and by 6:30 we were done eating, leaving us time to hang with the babe before the nighttime routine commenced! And the real kicker is that once she was asleep, there were no dishes waiting for us in the sink so we could hit the couch and spend time with each other. Heaven, really.

If you’re interested in signing up for KitchenSurfing, and having a professional chef come to your house/apt (and I highly reccomend you do), they are offering Your Soul Style readers the first meal free when using the code YOURSOULSTYLE. Life is super busy, we are all running a mile a minute and self-care is important. So take good care, and sign up!

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